The Challenges of Being a Mom

Being a mother is the best thing that has ever happened to me. But I must admit it's not a walk in the park as most people would imagine. As the kids grow older, I am faced with different challenges, especially since they both have different personalities, each special in his or her own way.  

Andre is a sweet kid, but can be stubborn sometimes especially when it comes to school related stuff. He could not understand the local dialect and I suppose it is one of the reaons why he's not exactly thrilled to be going to school.  He would tell me "Mommy, my head is about to explode because I can't understand a thing they're saying."  It broke my heart hearing him say that, and I felt so frustrated and helpless.  I would just talk to him and tell him that he needs to go to school so he could work when he grows up.  Andre and I always end up arguing whenever it's time to study or make his assignments.  But I need to be more patient with him because I know he is still adjusting.

But with Micah, it's the opposite,  I never have to remind her to study because she's the one telling me if she has homework.  I would tell myself at least I have one of my kids eager to go to school. Micah has a strong personality, she's very frank and straightforward that sometimes I'm afraid it would get her in trouble when she's older.  The only time we end up arguing is during meal times, she's a picky eater and would take forever to finish her food.

Gone are the days when things were less complicated, when all they ever did was eat, sleep and play.  When they were babies they would cry whenever they're hungry, now it's the opposite, they would cry when you want them to eat.  As much as I want to give them everything, I need to be firm and not give in to all their demands.  It breaks my heart when they see me as the enemy, but at a young age I want them to realize that we can't have everything in life.  I know I'm not a perfect mother, but I try my best to be a good mom to my kids.  If I need to be the bad guy, then so be it, as long as I know that what I am doing is for their best interest. There are occasions when I'm being pushed to the edge but I try my best not to loose my temper.  

Motherhood I guess is a lifetime career, because at one time your kids would be totally dependent and would want you with them 24/7, the next time you know it they're all grown up and eager to spread their wings.  But what's important is that your kids know that whatever happens you will always be around.  My own kids are just starting to explore the world, and as for me I know that there would be more challenges up ahead, it has been tough and I know it will be but I would not trade it for anything in the world.