On painful memories...

Each of us have had our own share of painful memories.  But every person would have different ways of coping with them.  I used to harbor those painful memories in my heart, keeping them locked inside... But those painful memories have their way of eating you up and so I decided to drive them away...

I've realized though that the harder you try to forget a painful memory, the more it comes back to haunt you. So it's wiser to stop trying to forget  them.  I somehow learned to live with all the painful memories.  I have come to accept that I may have been hurt, but it does not mean that I can't be happy again.  A painful memory can turn into something beautiful if we only learn to find the meaning behind them.

So for now, learn to live with whatever painful memory it is that you have, but do not ever let the pain kill the person that you are.  Strive to be happy and live each day as if it were your last.

Above all, make new happy memories that you can  look back to.   If you have more happy memories in your heart, there would be no place for the painful memories to hurt you..

 

 

Loving With Your Heart or Mind?

How do you love someone?  Do you follow the famous line which says, "I love you with all of my heart"? Or would you rather have someone tell you "I love you with all of my mind"?

When we initially  fall in love with someone, it is more "feelings based".  So we rely more on what our heart feels rather than on what our mind dictates.  The best part about loving and being in a relationship is usually during the early part.  It is during this phase where you only see the good side of the relationship.  It is also during these times that you both find out things you both like to do together, traits that you appreciate in each other, which would eventually help you both establish a bond that would help strengthen the relationship.

But the real challenge begins when you both discover more about each other.  When you find out things you never knew existed.  When you are both faced with difficult situations that test how you feel towards each other.  Most of the time, these situations may not only test your relationship, but your character as well.  I guess it is during these times when we would rather have our mind work over our heart.

 The heart who has experienced pain may not know what is right from wrong.  All it knows is that it is hurting and may not be able to make a rational decision.  The heart who has been given too much attention by another may eventually give in and forget that he already belongs to someone else. And the heart who is madly in love gives more than what is needed in a relationship leaving her with nothing for herself.  Oftentimes we do something based on how we feel, not realizing that we end up hurting others, or worse hurting ourselves in the end.

Our feelings falter from time to time, so when we love someone, we must commit not just our hearts but more importantly our minds into the relationship.  When we always keep in mind why we love someone, we learn to look beyond the hurt, the anger and the imperfections.

So when you love someone, love not just with your heart, but keep your mind in the equation as well.  This might help keep a lasting relationship or it just might save you from being in the wrong one.

The Things We Do For Love

There are endless possibilities of what a person can do when he's in love.  One can be inspired and do great things, or desperate enough to do something stupid.  I myself have done things I can be proud of, and a few foolish things that I can just laugh about, all in the name of love.

"How Were You Bitten By The Love Bug?".  This was the title of an essay writing contest I joined 13 years ago.  I remember joining the contest hoping to surprise someone, and luckily my story was among the few that was chosen.  The prize I got was a pair of Russ love bug stuffed toys (which I still have until now) and having our story and photo published on the lifestyle section of the Philippine Daily Inquirer.

Love makes us do things we normally would not have the courage of doing. So hopefully whatever it is we do for love, it would end up to be something we could fondly look back to every now and then.

The photo below brings back happy memories of how it was back then... young, carefree and in love.

Happy Hearts Day everyone! Stay Happy ♥

My Favorite Movie Quotes

One of the things I love most is watching movies!  I could probably stay in the house all day, propped up on the couch, munching on chips just watching old movies!  It could be any genre, but what tops my list would be romantic films.  I don't know, I guess I'm just a sucker for love and even if sometimes what happens in movies can never happen in reality, doesn't matter.  I will always be a fan of love and all it's splendor!

Here are some of my favorite quotes from romantic movies that I've watched. 
 

  


"The best love is the kind that awakens the soul and makes us reach for more; that plants a fire in our hearts and brings peace to our minds. That's what you've given me and that's what I hope to give to you forever."

“I finally understood what true love meant...love meant that you care for another person's happiness more than your own, no matter how painful the choices you face might be.”

 "I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it."

 "I would rather fight with you than make love to anyone else."

"I vow no matter what challenges might carry us apart that we will always find a way back to each other."

















And lastly, from the movie P.S. I love you.  This was the letter written by Gerry played Gerald Butler to Holly played by Hillary Swank.  I was crying buckets watching this movie.

 "Dear Holly, I don't have much time. I don't mean literally. I mean, you're out buying ice cream and you'll be home soon. But I have a feeling this is the last letter, because there is only one thing left to tell you. It isn't to go down memory lane or make you buy a lamp. You can take care of yourself without any help from me. It's to tell you how much you move me, how you changed me. You made me a man by loving me, Holly. And for that, I am eternally grateful... literally. If you can promise me anything, promise me that whenever you're sad, or unsure, or you lose complete faith, that you'll try to see yourself through my eyes. Thank you for the honor of being my wife. I'm a man with no regrets. How lucky am I? You made my life, Holly. But I'm just one chapter in yours. There'll be more. I promise. So here it comes, the big one. Don't be afraid to fall in love again. Watch out for that signal, when life as you know it ends. P.S. I will always love you."

"The Other One"

When a friend first asked me if I was able to watch the movie No Other Woman, I was thinking it must be a new Hollywood chick-flick. But when they started talking about how sexy Derek Ramsey was or how they compared the acting of Anne Curtis and Cristine Reyes, I realized it was another local movie with the same theme as that of the first one that came out which was My Neighbor's Wife.  But even if I find Jake Cuenca really good looking, I never had any interest in watching that movie.

But I was actually curious about No Other Woman, so I invited our helper to watch the movie with me.  After dropping the kids to school last Monday, we hurriedly rushed to catch the 1:30 pm screening in a mall nearby.  Well, the story line was what I expected, love, betrayal, infidelity.  It showed how each characters cope with the situation they are in.  Lucky for this one, the husband returned to the wife.  But in reality, it does not always happen that way.  Sometime it's the wife that gets left behind, or it's the husband who gets cheated on, or maybe the right one came at the wrong time so they ended up being the third party.  

Sadly, in almost every story the third party or "the other one" always ends up being the bad person, or worse they end up being alone.  Somehow, I pity Anne's character in the movie, because she knew getting into a relationship with a married man was wrong, but she did it anyway.  At first she was doing it out of fun, but eventually she fell in love with the guy  Some people get into this type of relationship for money, power, self satisfaction or ego boost... but I think that some allow themselves to be caught up in this kind of relationship because they actually love the person, and it's really sad.  We will never really understand why these things happen, or why people allow it to happen.  We can only hope that it never happens to the people we love or better yet to us.

Dreaming of a "Dream Wedding".

When I was a kid, I remember our "yaya" taking us to the church just across our house whenever there was a wedding.  I would look in awe as the bride walks down the aisle looking pristine in her white wedding gown.  Since then, I developed a fancy for weddings and always dreamed about "my own wedding".

Back then, I would look forward to the Sunday edition of the newspaper because it would always have features of weddings in the lifestyle section.  It became a hobby of mine collecting pictures of gowns, and cake designs, and any article related to weddings.  I would picture myslef in every wedding gown design I would see, I even have a couple of designs I wanted to copy for my own wedding.

But sometimes, dreams were just meant to be dreams.  I did'nt get to have my dream wedding.  I'm not blaming anyone because it was a personal choice, at that time I felt it was not right for me to demand from my parents and my husbands family to spend on "my wedding".   I mean I just finished med school and then got pregnant, husband was still reviewing for the board exams.  It just did not feel right during that time.  I was thinking to just save the money for the baby that was coming.

My grandmother was the one who encouraged me to have a church wedding.  She said it doesn't have to be grand, what's important is that we receive God's blessing and be united not just in the eyes of man but also in God's eyes.

And so I had my church wedding last August 24, 2005.  It was a simple ceremony with just a few family members and I did not even get to tell my friends about it. Wedding attire was casual, jeans and a white top, The priest even joked that we were under dressed for our own wedding.  I had my son as soloist performing during the entire ceremony, as he was crying the enitre time. A simple lunch followed, no throwing of bouguets, no cake slicing not even gifts, hahaha!!

Looking back, I knew it was the right choice during that time.  Ross and I have been married for 6 years and blessed with 2 kids.  Married life is not an easy path, you come across bumps and fall down once in a while, but what matters is that you help each other rise up and go on.

Do I still dream of my dream wedding?  Of course I still do, I think it is every girls dream.  I guess if I ever have one regret, was that I did'nt give papa a chance to walk me down the aisle, and it hurts me even until now.

I may not have experienced my dream wedding, at least I still get to spend ever after with the person I love.  I think that's what matters in the end.

That Special "Someone"

It's always good to know that no matter what life has in store for us, 

there's always that "someone" we could share it with,

 the happy moments and the sad

during good times and even the bad,

through laughter and tears...

 

You won't ever have to feel you're alone.

 

 

His Corny Side

My phone inbox has almost a hundred messages, some were dated even from 2008.  Most messages I kept were from hubby, others were forwarded messages from family and friends.  There were messages that brought back painful memories and I finally had the courage to delete them because I have come to forgive the person who sent them to me.  But there were also messages that made me smile just remembering the story behind it.  

One of those was a message sent by Ross last September, I remember I was watching a Tagalog movie, while he was busy making his report.  It was a romantic-comedy, and he was even making fun of me because I was enjoying it even if the lines were a bit corny.  After the movie when we were about to go to sleep, I checked on my phone and was surprised to read the message he sent, it was a line from the movie I just watched.  I found the gesture sweet, considering that my hubby is not really the romantic type of person.  I guess that's his way of showing his corny side, by making it seem like a joke.  Maybe he's not ready to admit that he has a sweet and corny side hiding behind the pa tough-guy persona.

Two is Better than One

So maybe it's true
That I can't live without you
And maybe two is better than one
But there's so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
And you've already got me coming undone
And I'm thinking two is better than one

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Don't Be Afraid to Love

 

Don't be afraid to love someone

totally and completely.

Love is the most fulfilling

and beautiful feeling in the world.

Don't be afraid that you will 

get hurt

or that the other person won't love you.

There's a risk in everything you do

and the rewards are never so great

as what love can bring.

So let yourself get involved

completely and honestly

and enjoy the possibility

that what happens

might be the only real

source of happiness.